Everything happens for a reason.

A person can choose not to grow even when he is being put into a situation where he is meant to grow. So it’s all a matter of choice.

Everything happens to teach a lesson. And if we aren’t taking what it wants to give us. Then it will always be revolving around us. They will always be there to make us understand why are they there. They will always be somewhere in the back of our mind, and troubling us once in a while.

But the moment we learn from them, the moment we get what it wants to give us. It leaves us. That’s how we let things go. When we take what they have to give. Everything that happens to us has a lesson to give us, either to avoid doing something in the future or to give us a better understanding of the world.

There are times when we come across a tragedy and just because we learn something from them, they stop troubling us. While there are some life situations which never stop troubling us. Its all because we don’t hold what it wants to give us.

Here I mean to say, everything that happens to us is to teach us some lesson or to make us grow. Whether it is a betrayal or a failure or if it is simply painstaking. They are all meant to give us something. If we get to know one more thing because of it, it has served its purpose. And until and unless we don’t let it serve us, it will keep on moving around us. And keep on troubling us in one way or the other.

Like every mistake is meant to teach us not to repeat it ever. Similarly, anything which we might call as misfortune has something to teach us. After its occurence, we are obliged to have a changed mindset. And if you don’t change our mindset, the misfortune will keep on coming with the same lesson under different masks.

I am not saying that if you learn from your misfortune then nothing disturbing will ever happen to you. No that’s not the case. But no tragedy will happen for the same reason.

It might sound bizarre and difficult to understand this role of circumstances. Our life’s circumstances are like a machine which are meant to mold us into one way or the other. And if we keep on resisting to mold ourselves and keep ourselves the same, they will keep on moving us with more and more energy.

So we must mold ourselves on the first time it moves us rather than resisting the change. And that can only be done when we give ourselves some time to contemplate. When we sit calmly and reflect on everything that has happened. rather than constantly fighting our battles, we also need to think that what are fighting for, is it worth the fight, is it mine to fight and what this fight is meant for. Instead of blindly swinging the sword, if we just open our eyes and try to see things clearly. Everything will become a lot easier.

Humans are meant to be better. And there is nothing else they have to do. We can’t become the master of anything in life but life itself trains us to be one. And the one who doesn’t want to be taught is the one who gets the stick.

If you are being given enough signs about one of your bad habits. And why should you not do that? And even if you are avoiding the signs for the sake of not being in that guilt. Then you are gonna suffer for the training you’re avoiding. You will keep on coming across a situation that will tell you the same thing again and again. And the baggage will keep on building up. The later you realize your mistake, the harder the pain, and the harder it takes to get over it.

So when the master doesn’t even ask us for our willingness to be trained or not. And we are meant to work on our training. It is better we do it willingly. That we get into the habit of learning what life wants to teach us and we build the mindset of becoming better each day, and we don’t resist the change.

Everything happens for a reason and all we are meant to do is to discover that reason and work upon it.

Originally published at sanarajarsite.wordpress.com on April 8, 2019.