Peace is what we should crave and it is all that we lack.
You know why do we easily get depressed and sad these days. Why our emotions fluctuate so quickly. And we can’t be happy for a very long time.
While we see ourselves getting sad, we can’t really see the real reason behind our sadness. The gospel truth is. No matter how honest you are, you won’t be able to tell me the reason of your sadness. Because you yourself don’t even know it. You yourself don’t know the cause of your sadness. And why are you feeling the way you’re feeling.
And when there is no such physical or practical reason to associate your sadness with. You blame the one who hurt you a long time ago. And come to that shit again. “Nobody loves me or everybody is busy in their lives and nobody cares for me.”
We feel good to be victimized because it makes us feel good about ourselves and put all the blame on someone else.
We associate our sadness with things outside us while they have nothing to with it. Because we want everything to have a reason outside us, we don’t look inside us for the sadness that emerges within. As we associate our happiness with the gathering and parties, so we assume our sadness to be just opposite of it. We associate our sadness with loneliness.
It might be the case that the cause of your sadness is you. The reason behind your tears is your constant crave for accompaniment. All you want is to be accompanied by one thing or the other. But the truth is, the real bliss lies in rising above the crave for accompaniment. We shouldn’t need something or someone to live our lives. While that also doesn’t mean we can live our lives alone. Rather it means that we shouldn’t be dependent for our happiness on someone else nor should our sadness emerge from someone’s way of behaving with us.
We think the absence of happiness is sadness. Because we don’t even know what happiness really is.
While happiness and sadness are transient and doesn’t last long. So we are unaware of the fact that we long for peace. All we want is to be in bliss. We should be aware of the fact that the big fat smile on our face is not what we crave for. We lack the peace that makes us OK with the way things are. That’s when we will be happy even when we will be sad.
Now how can a person be happy if he is sad? Its because he doesn’t have the urge to change his state and accepts the way things are. Acknowledging the fact that sadness is too transient and won’t last long. It doesn’t mean surrendering to the adversities of life. But it means acknowledging its presence and then taking the necessary steps.
If you always have this conflict in your mind that “I am feeling this way but I don’t want to”. You don’t accept the presence of the feeling. In order to change it into something else, we should first get the courage to accept its presence.
We should realize the fact that it’s not happiness that we should desire and it’s not sadness that we should fear. Its making peace with everything is what we should crave. Peace is looking at things as they are.
Peace is what we should crave and it is all that we lack.
Originally published at sanarajarsite.wordpress.com on April 5, 2019.
