Silence is the best response.

Keeping oneself silent is one of the underrated habits in today’s world. All we want is to reply as soon as we hear something. Rather than listening to what they have to say, we listen to what we have already heard.

I think being too responsive reflects one’s own insecurities. If someone’s behavior or actions can move us, its quite clear that how easy it is to break us. So in order to be strong, we must get to a place where nobody can move us according to their will. We must have the strength to stand tall when everyone is trying to move us away.

Silence has uses that mankind has always ignored. We all want to be responsive, to say something or to make the other person realize something. But no matter what, we aren’t ready to be truly silent and see things as they are.

We can have our peace just that we choose to remain silent over things that move us away. It’s not that those things weren’t wrong, they were and still are. But when we change our response towards them, they stop troubling us like they used to.

Just that we don’t reply to someone’s anger and calm ourselves down. We can have peace within ourselves. That we can stop fighting battles that we didn’t create. We respond to the mean comments someone passes on us, and give them the control to trouble us. If we give the control of our emotions in someone else’s hands, then they will have the control to switch us on and off.

Just that we start to not reply to people’s conflicting opinions, that we can make peace with them. It’s just that we start to be a little silent on things that trouble us. That they will stop troubling us.

I know most of the time this same silence builds up inside us and create more chaos than it could have created at that moment. But now I am not talking about that forced silence. When we are compelled to keep our mouths shut. No, rather I am talking about the silence we choose to keep in order to make peace with how things are.

There could be nothing more powerful than that when you can’t trouble a person with any of your words or actions. That’s what a person gets a hold on his sanity, over his life.

Otherwise, if anyone’s words can trouble us and move us then we would lose control over our emotions. We would give others the right to trouble us whenever they want to. And our emotions will be a plaything in their hands.

Sometimes we create chaos in our lives just because we couldn’t be silent when someone was provoking us. You will wonder how can you keep be quiet when you’re provoked. That’s the only time when you are supposed to be silent. That’s the moment when you are tested on your tolerance level. And if you fail the test, you will lose your peace.

And if that moment, you do what they expect you to do. They will succeed in provoking you. You must have the courage to stand by our side. The side where we are supposed to defend ourselves without even saying anything. And not their side where we are supposed to react according to their will.

Sometimes silence is the best response you could give to someone. It does take courage and strength to be silent when everything tries to get words out of our mouth. But the hard work is worth it for the peace we will enjoy after they are gone.

We always come across people whose ways we don’t like. Neither do we agree with them nor we like what they say. At those times we are given two option. Either to respond to everything with anger or be silent. The latter one is hard and takes strength and the former one is easy. But the hard things always pays off. So rather than trying to change their actions if we accept them as they are that they will stop troubling us.

At times when our capabilities are questioned, we get furious and want to prove them wrong. And in that rage, we use our energy in the wrong direction. We argue with those who find us wrong and it costs us more than it is worth. At that moment what we are supposed to do is be silent and listen to what they have to say. Take their words as they are and move on. Because actions speak louder than words and you can only let your actions speak when you keep your words to yourself.

So the next time you’re provoked or questioned. Be silent and let them do their work and get back to your own. Because silence is the best response.

Originally published at http://sanarajarsite.wordpress.com on April 18, 2019.